The Heart-Changing Lesson I learned from all the Messy Stuff Yoga brings to the Surface

Settling into the four corners of my mat and breathing for an hour was better than any happy hour and more rewarding than any other form of exercise I’d ever done. As my mind settled, that inner voice became louder and the movement created new space and self-awareness within me. My mind became more focused, my body felt better, and without knowing it, I began to live in my body and confront the pain that had been lodged within me for years.

But when a yoga teacher said to,”Come back to love,” I literally had no idea what that meant or felt like.

It’s taken me years to understand how to come home to self, feel good within, and fully embody who I am while loving every aspect of who that is. I learned that in order to have great love and healthy relationships, we must feel good within first and develop an authentic individual connection with ourselves—mind, body, and heart. By cultivating self-love—being able to take care of ourselves, nurturing our body, and feeling into the essence of our being—we are able to intuit less from the head and more from our own heart’s intelligence.

No one told me that when we start practicing yoga, we’d be forced to confront ourselves and the many layers of stuff we’ve bottled up. The deeper we go into the practice, the more we witness the positive impact of the mind-body connection, and we’re often unable to go back to our fearful and trapped ways of living. It is the breath that helps us calm down so we can settle into our heart and mind to hear the connection with our soul.

Yoga becomes our liberation. It is the way to tame the mind and open the heart.

So many of us operate with a need to find a partner, have a partner, and make our whole life about chasing and finding love. But the majority of us forget that to attract a relationship—one that can last forever—we must become congruent within ourselves. By overcoming our obstacles and limiting beliefs, and looking at our patterns and shadows, we can become less dependent on finding the one and more willing to transform ourselves into becoming the one.

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