We will also never learn to trust ourselves if we rely on external rules and conditions and if we make decisions based on fear.
Worrying about our weight and appearance puts a block in life that keeps a lot more than food from coming in. It stifles joy and creativity and the things that make life worth living by keeping us in a perpetual state of resistance and tension.
It blocks self-confidence and makes us always think we are doing something wrong.
It literally sucks the life out of us and drains us of energy that could be used for actually enjoying our life here on Earth.
To stop dieting is therefore an awakening to the power of love over fear. Love in the form of self-compassion. Love in the form of self-acceptance. Love in the form of supporting ourselves and being open to the journey that we are here to have. Opening and allowing are the keys to flow and freedom and dieting is the exact opposite.
If we can let go of everything else and sink into love, miracles will happen. That doesn’t mean that our body will change. But we will tap into the deeper reasons why we are here and we will find a wellspring of support and positive feedback within ourselves that will sustain us for life if we remember to nurture it.
When we reach this nirvana, no one can take it away from us by not liking how we dress, commenting on our size, or suggesting we look unacceptable. We will not even be able to comprehend what they are saying or implying because we will no longer be speaking the same language. We will be the source of our own approval and security and we will no longer require it externally.
At this juncture, we will know the truth of our soul and will have discovered a secret to life that many can’t comprehend because their adult development and spiritual evolution has not brought them to this place yet.
No diet can promise that ever. And it is worth more than being skinny can ever be. Just ask a skinny person—if they aren’t open and allowing and following their heart, they won’t be any happier either.
In addition, when we stop using our energy for restraint and for fighting against our biological drive to eat, we free up vast stores of energy that can be used to create whatever it is our hearts yearn to bring to life.